Self-care is a buzz word at the moment. It seems like everyone is talking about it and there are a variety of opinions out there. For years, even before kids, I put self-care in this box. I labeled it selfish and did not touch it. I know that I a meant to serve, so that is just what I did. I was good at it.
I found myself in a place of constant burn out, stress, overwhelm, and fatigue. I was not eating well, I would sometimes sleep too much or not enough, and I was inconsistent with caring for myself. After my second child and years of self neglect, I started to feel hopeless, beyond tired, tearful, anxious, and depressed. I finally decided to seek help from my primary care doctor. This was the first step in my self care journey.
It is interesting to me that self-care is labeled for some as selfish or for others as this reward that we can only take advantage of when we have completed our tasks. We think that self-care will be expensive. It will take up large amounts of time we do not have. Right? We have all of these concerns for self-care, but are they valid?
When we put self-care on this pedestal, we almost make it completely unattainable. Self-care does not necessarily need to be expensive or take you out of the home. It does not need to take a lot of time either.
Self-care does not always look like facials, massages, or pedicures. It certainly can and there is nothing wrong with those activities. I want to challenge you to think about self-care as caring for yourself. Caring for your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
These are everyday things that are incredibly beneficial to your health, to your relationships, and your ability to serve others. Self-care comes in many forms and is determined by you alone.
The following are some options for self-care (you may surprise yourself that you could be doing some or multiple of these).
- Eating healthy
- Having downtime or quiet time
- Calling a friend or spending sometime with them in person
- Date night with your spouse or significant other
- Listening to your favorite song
- Giving yourself time to get yourself ready, ie makeup, hair, etc.
- Painting your nails
- Taking a nap
- Taking a day off – we all need a mental health day some times
- Drinking enough fluids
- Therapy appointment
- Getting your hair cut or colored
- Spending time with family
- Enjoying the outdoors
- Watching your favorite movie
I could continue to list of hundreds of options, but I think you get the idea. Self-care is meeting the normal biological needs: rest, eating well, drinking water, etc. It is also doing something you love to do, and something that gives you energy. This can come in many forms and in some cases may depend on your season of life.
Now, the real challenge is not necessarily understanding or listing out things we love to do. It is really the mindset change of making self-care, making yourself a priority. It is saying yes to yourself!
I have come up with an interactive download for you to work through to help you work through this mindset change. As you work through this worksheet, I recommend trying to do it in a quiet place or little interruption. I understand in your season of life this may be hard. It can be broken up throughout the week, but I do want you to devote some time to this and let me know if you need any support.
Intentional Living Tip: Go ahead and download your free Guide to saying yes to Self-care. Sometimes our mindsets really need to change and we need to challenge ourselves to conquer old behaviors and negative thoughts, so we can truly accept the importance of Self-care. As always, let me know if I can help you as your walk through this journey. I am here to support you!