I had cancelled and scheduled this appointment several times. I knew that I needed help, but I did not know what I needed. I worked at the Clinic in a Leadership role. How would this impact my work? How people saw me?
Finally, I went through with the appointment. My doctor looked at me and asked, what are you afraid of. It was instant. I burst into uncontrollable tears. Through my hands and muffled cries I said, “I am afraid I will fail as their mother.”
I softly heard her say to me, “Ashley, you will fail.” I paused. Still tearful and looked at her. Before I could speak, she said, “Ashley you will fail. It will happen. But you will not fail at the important things.”
I did not know it in that moment, but those words would impact my journey. My mindset. I would fail. I have failed in many aspects of my life. It used to just crush me. It haunted me. I could recite the hundreds of times that I had failed, BUT I struggled to tell you the many times that I succeeded. OR the countless times that my “failures” would turn into something amazing.
The truth is that we will fail. If we simply fear failure and hide from it, it will still find us. All we have done is made it so failure has a hold of us. It prevents us from living, from serving, and from trying anything new. It also prevents us from learning.
I no longer see failing as a negative. NOW…Let’s be real, I do not like failing. HOWEVER, it is inevitable. If I try new things, make changes, and live my destiny I will fail. There is a hidden beauty to failure. If you chose to see this failure as an opportunity, you will learn a lesson from it, you will be strengthened, you will be changed. This is where failure shines in us.
This experience allows us to grow, to develop, and to teach others. There is no way we can become wise without it. No amount of education can teach you the wonders in good ol’ life lessons.
So, go ahead. Next time failure finds you, stare back at it hard! Look into it, feel it, and learn from it. Pull out the lesson you were meant to learn. Then tell the world about the treasure you found. Share it.
Intentional Living Tip:
Get a little vulnerable and pick a time when you feel you failed. Sit with those feelings. No judgement here. Then reach into that failure and find the lesson in it. Learn from it and grow. Take it with you to share and to recall for next time.
You will fail. But there is strength in failing. It is okay!