Last week, my mornings were a struggle. A mess! My home a mess, my mind a mess, and oh the stress! The anxiety, the whirlwind of all the things. It did not just stop with me, but everyone. After much personal development and review, I made some changes. Yes, I did that in a week. I needed to make a mindset shift. I needed to decide to make a change.
Yes, I can tell you all the reasons why I was struggling to get out of bed. I can make every excuse. Literally, I can make every excuse in the world. Some good. Others not so good.
But here is the deal. After a lot of reflection, I sat with myself. My mornings are the pivotal part of my day. How I start my day is how I continue through my day. Yes, of course, there is always a way to change or shift in the day. BUT I think we owe it to ourselves to start our mornings off great. Let’s make a vow to stop reacting to our morning.
Here is the deal friend! I read the Morning Miracle by Hal Elrod. It was striking to me and I could not wait to try it. I had these dreams of how I would wake up the next morning like it was Christmas Morning, run downstairs, and immediately change my life with an hour of awesome. I began to imagine all of the ways I would be awesome. The next morning came and I did not get up. I snoozed my alarm….a few times. The next day the same thing.
Finally, I declared that I would wait until Monday. It makes more sense to make a change at the beginning of the week…right? So, Monday morning I woke up and went downstairs. Before running downstairs, I looked at the clock. I thought about hitting snooze…a couple times. This time, I looked at that clock and said I will not hit snooze on my life! Fact that was what I said. Yes, I am freak.
I got up, let out of the dog, and got the coffee started. I snuggled down into the couch to drink my coffee, and started to listen to my guided meditation. AND do you know what? My son began to cry. I waited. You know how you sit very still and silent, hoping they will go back to sleep? They will not know you are there? You know like a T-Rex?
Well, I finally decided after a few seconds that I needed to pause the mediation and get my sweet son. At this moment, I had two choices. I could get Noah, drink my coffee, and really try not to be stressed and annoyed that I did not do my morning miracle practice (day 1). OR I could pick up Noah, grab my coffee, and sit in the rocking chair. I could snuggle my sweet baby in the dark, drink my coffee, and do all the things. So, this particular morning I sat with Noah in the dark, rocked him sweetly, listened to my guided meditation, I did my affirmation, and did my journaling. It was perfect.
The goal of morning miracle was is to give yourself time to start your morning more motivated and more inspired. I know that the days that I start my morning in the dark, with my coffee, the bible, my meditation, and journal are the best. Sometimes I get a little crazy and add the exercise in. One day this will be a permanent part of the morning.
It honestly does not matter what your morning looks like for you. As a mom, you must know that it may take form at a moments notice. Unfortunately, your kids are not a T-Rex, so they will likely know you are up. If you do not get them, they will find you. So, hiding does not seem to help. I digress.
I want you to work through the following steps to a joyful morning. And know that it may not, as many things in life, look the perfect way you planned.
Get up early
Get up before everyone else, whenever you can. Yes, I know you are already tired. You get up and do for everyone. You work, you are a momma, and you are tired. Yes, I get it. I am right there with you my friends. I am a full-time momma, I have a business, I work full-time, I am a wife, and all the things. I am tired too. BUT getting up early allows me time to care for myself. I have more energy during the day. I am more inspired and motivated. I am better in my relationships. Just do it. The first day, you may not feel completely awesome. BUT it is worth it.
Make a Plan
What will work for you? What do you need. My beautiful friend, Cortney of balancewithcortney.com, told me to start my morning with asking myself what I need. It is only the first few seconds. But get up, wash your face, brush your teeth, drink some coffee, and do something that inspires you. My recommendations: guided meditation, journaling, positive affirmations, exercise, did I say drink hot coffee, read, or just enjoy silence.
Yes, in the beginning you may be like me. Meditation? Keep my brain quiet? No, thank you. Too hard. Not for me. All of the excuses. BUT you know what? It is beautiful quiet time that teaches you to calm those thoughts. It teaches you to be in the moment. Did I say it is a practice? A process. It is not perfection. You may not crush it everyday, but it is worth trying. There are apps, recordings on YouTube, and Amazon Prime. Just try it.
We so often do not talk about ourselves positively. Yes, my self talk is crazy town dramatic and the first words are often the negative ones. The ones that tell me I am not enough. BUT I am enough. Every time I say that I am not. I say a lie about how I look, how I care for the ones I love, etc. it has an effect on others. It effects my husband, my children, and God. I want my children to look positive selfcare. God gave me all the things that I need to do all the things I want. I am enough. Talk to yourself about your awesome. Even if you are not feeling it. Try it.
Writing can really help. It will help us process all of those self talks, the stories or lies we tell ourselves. It will help us determine where we need/want to improve. Most importantly, it will help us track our progress. It will help us celebrate all of the changes that we need made in a years time, a day, a month, a week, whatever.
There are so many things you can try. I highly recommend reading Miracle Morning. It is a great book on how to create a practice and all of the beautiful ways to make it happen. It is inspiring!
But friend, know that it may look different for you. Maybe it is not an hour. It is time for you. Time for you to care for yourself. Time for you to be in silence. You are enough. Your morning may look different every day, it likely will get interrupted, but it is necessary. Do you know the beauty of your children seeing this? They will learn to and how to care for themselves? What a beautiful gift to give them!
Intentional Living Tip:
There are days we will feel like we are crushing it! We will feel like we are the best wife, the best mom, and awesome at our jobs. We will feel like we can take on the world. Yes, world domination is just around the corner. THEN IT happens. Yes, IT. The day we wake up and everything goes wrong! The day you feel like a failure. Those days, I want you to focus on all the good things you did. Are your kids alive? Were they fed? Are they relatively clean? Are you breathing and relatively clean yourself? Yes to all of those? Then you succeed! You are not perfect. That is okay. You are a mom. You owe it to yourself to give yourself some time. On the days you feel like a failure and the days you crush it. You are enough!
If you are still feeling overwhelmed, reach out to me. Check out the productivity Courses. You will walk through the tools I use to make time and to shift my mindset to this life change.
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I am supporting you!