I recall as a child thinking maybe I could be a star. You know basically try to be the next Brittney Spears because why not? It seemed as though this was too far to reach. I remember being told that this dream would take a lot of money and time – it likely would not happen. I should set realistic goals.
Then in a need to answer the questions – what do you want to do when you grow up? – I responded with I want to be a doctor. Ah the praise! Yes, this is perfect for a high achieving, intelligent person. Everyone could back that. It made sense.
I remember grappling with this choice early on. I knew I was called to be a mother, so I pondered how this profession would affect my ability to become a mother. But I was not able to answer this question nor was the countless other women that I asked. Their answers did not seem to fit with the life I wanted.
Well – fast forward several years and no med school application. No MD after my name. No DO or PA-C. I had failed an attainable, sensible goal. A mountain of debt in pursuit for this dream. Yet – I seemingly failed.
Another dream to achieve my doctorate by the time of 25. When then did not happen – I had a 25th Birthday Breakdown. I was not the woman I wanted to be. I had failed. Yet – I still was not taking any initiative to be intentional about meeting my dreams.
I had children and I think about every decision I make. I consider how it affects them. Over the past year, I have conquered my fears of failure. I will fail – likely many times. I will fall, I will ugly cry in the shower, and I will continue to learn. I will always get back up and challenge myself. I have a dream. It has changed, but it is still my dream. It is as achievable as a I make it.
We often doubt ourselves. We tell ourselves we cannot do it because…
It costs too much money.
I do not have enough time.
Who am I do that?
No one will listen to me.
Someone has already done it.
I do not know where to start.
I am a mom.
The list goes on and on my friend. There are tons of people that have become singers. They have worked at it, failed at it, and succeeded. They had to start somewhere.
I know many doctors. They were intentional, worked hard, and achieved.
Many people are already doing the things that you want to do. Their are mothers, wives, daughters, friends, doctors, police officers, actors, influencers, writers, etc. Likely the dream you are thinking – no matter how big – has already been done.
That does not mean that you cannot do it! It means that it can be done. You are uniquely you. You can do it. You will do it your way. You cannot compare or compete. You need to focus on your dream. You will stumble like a toddler learning to walk. You will struggle with your words just like a toddler learning to speak. You may throw a tantrum from time to time. It does not mean that you cannot do it or should not do it.
It means that you are new at something. You are trying something that you have never done before. The more you continue to get up and try, the more you will impress yourself. In all honesty – it is something to celebrate and share. Every misstep, every failure. These are opportunities for your growth.
Do you know what else?
You achieving your dreams not only impact you. It impacts all of those that you will serve. It will impact your children. How amazing is it for your children to see you achieving, failing, and getting back up?!? How amazing is it for your children to see you living your dream? How amazing is it for your children to see you share your gifts with the world?
Intentional Living Tip:
Take out some post-it notes. I want you to write down as many beautiful dreams as you have. It may take you some time to develop a list, especially if you have not dreamed in a while. These dreams can be to lead a movement, to change jobs, to go back to school, to go to the gym, to make time for a morning routine, etc. The list goes on!
Take that list. Hold each post-it in your hand. Feel into it. Do you love it? Choose 1 – 3 things that you want to focus on. Then make a plan to go after it. Maybe you only have 20 minutes per day. Schedule it and make it happen!
Go after that dream!